How to teach a child to play independently: the selection of fascinating toys and the organization of the game space

Contents of

  • 1. Game and its meaning
  • 2. Separation of interests by age
    • 2.1. Classes for children 1,5-2 years old
    • 2.2. Child 2-3 years old
    • 2.3. Child 3-6 years old
  • 3. Several reasons why a kid does not want to play himself
  • 4. Organization of the game
    • 4.1. What is suitable for independent play?
  • 5. Summing up

Growing up, the child is giving the parents more and more trouble. A two-year-old can not always take himself for long, he needs a constant presence of his mother. How can we teach a child to play alone to find time for farming? This question often confronts young mothers who do not have time to solve everyday tasks in the home. We will try to understand what mistakes the parents of the kids make and teach them how to take the child.

Mom with child Sometimes mother really wants to give the child to herself and calmly deal with the affairs of the

Game and its importance

An important element in the child's develo

pment, his psychological and physical maturation, is the game. Its function is not so much the result, as in the process itself. The kid himself comes up with rules, composes a plot, seeks application of familiar things - builds a train from chairs, collects a new model from a designer, or simply plays in his mother's daughters. All this serves as a powerful impetus to the development of the nervous system, and also brings up elementary skills that will benefit in adulthood.

You can play not only with other children or follow the rules invented by mom. It is important that the child can get into the magical world of the game on his own, because he learns a lot - overcome obstacles, develop thinking, fantasy, and look for different solutions. What game is most comfortable at every age? How to teach a child to be self-sufficient, not to lose interest in their actions for a long period?

Separation of interests by age

For each age there are the most successful games, it is very important to be able to correctly select them. What a child likes 5 years old will not suit a 3 year old. The two-year-old will not be able to understand the ingenious rules of board games or reincarnate as a hero of the cartoon. For this age is ideal activity, offering to use, pick up various items. The kid is now learning to control his body - to jump, go down the steps, and also begins to comprehend the manipulation of the folding of toys in boxes or boxes.

The child plays A two-year-old child can not yet master difficult story games

Lessons for children 1,5-2 years old

Most often, the mother of a 1-2-year-old baby is nearby and from time to time tries to interest him with a toy so that he does not require too much attention from her. If the crumb does not succeed, he immediately makes it clear that he needs help. At this age, the child may well be alone, if you choose the type of occupation for him.

The first thing to take care of - the safety of the baby. It is important to create for him a space in which he can freely move and play. Before leaving the child alone, you need to make sure that he will not have access to the outlets, he can not open the window, get a scissors or a knife. Then you can put various objects around it that are safe to take in your mouth. Let them all be of different size, colors, made of different materials. Excellent rustling soft books, rubber toys, various sorters.

Leaving a child alone for a long time is not worth it - first you need to stay close to help the baby, if necessary, and calm him down. If the crumb was carried away, you can not stop him and interrupt the game with various comments. It is very important to encourage independent studies, to praise the baby and show in every way that my mother is happy with his actions.

Child 2-3 years old

Children aged 2-3 years already have a slightly different attitude to the game. They do not actively pull any object in the mouth, these kids are beginning to show interest in games with a clear storyline. The next stage, to which the baby moves - role-playing game. A child who is already 2 years old has an interest in imitation. He diligently copies the actions of adults, transferring them to his fictional world.

Role-playing game Closer to three years, children begin to happily participate in role-playing games

Girls will sit the doll at the table, feed her with a spoon, put her to bed, the boys - with pleasure to roll in the typewriter of soldiers or little men. It is very good at this age to try to add different constructions from the designer. The task of parents is to help their son or daughter find ways to interact with objects that can replace an adult. Then try to come up with several options for the game, create the right atmosphere and "run" the child's imagination.

It makes sense to try to go to the background and let the kid stay alone, independently entertain yourself. Most likely, he will be able to occupy himself for twenty to thirty minutes, then he will want to talk with adults. At this point, you need to smoothly switch his attention to other events - feed, get ready for a walk or just read a book. It is important not to allow the baby to feel boredom, but to give him the opportunity to keep favorable impressions of the game invented by himself.

Child 3-6 years old

This period in the life of a child can be conditionally called preschool. The three-year-old begins to understand the concept of friendship, he learns to communicate, build relationships with peers. If you observe from the side of the play of preschoolers, who are 3-4 years old, you can see how they create rules and strive to achieve their fulfillment from their comrades. At this stage, a role play comes to the fore - children easily share roles and follow the intended course of action.

Theme Games In the preschool age, games become subject, several people can participate in them

Parents at this time should not interfere with the nascent friendship - the child should be allowed to establish relations with his comrades. However, sometimes preschool children can not find a compromise, each of them wants to become a leader. It is important to be able to gently but persistently dissolve the disputants and invite them to spend their energy for other purposes, for example, to arrange mini-competitions.

At home with a child, you can simulate events occurring in a store, in a school, in a clinic. In the form of a game show him how to behave in public places - for example, quietly expect mom, who is going to pay the bill at the checkout.

During this period, you can offer the child a kind of exchange: he can play himself while mom prepares dinner, and then they will go for a walk together. Usually, children follow the task with pleasure and greatly facilitate the life of adults.

Several reasons why a kid does not want to play himself

Sometimes parents complain that the child does not want to be alone with anyone under any pretext. The most likely reason is that the baby did not get enough attention from his mother. To small children contact with mum is very important - corporal and psychological. It is important to allocate at least 20 minutes to the baby - to indulge with him, hug him and tell him something interesting. After that he can spend quite a long time without his mother.

Mom with child If you spend a little time exclusively on the child, then he can play one

. There are other reasons why the child does not want to remain himself. He may not feel well, be hungry. He may be uncomfortable - it's cold, hot or uncomfortable to be in new clothes.

You can not leave a baby alone when he is not in the mood - something upset, crying or just being naughty. This can only aggravate his condition and leave a negative impression of an independent game. Next time the baby will be more difficult to leave alone - he will remember this moment and will resist in advance that he wants to "quit."

Sometimes the elimination of possible causes of discontent of the child does not help, the baby still does not want to stay without parents - panics, screams, clings to his mother's hand. Do not insist, it is better to wait a few days and try again. If the baby, who is already more than two, is not ready to tear himself away from his mother even for 5-10 minutes, it makes sense to consult a child psychologist. The problem can be much deeper and more serious, without the involvement of a specialist it will be difficult to cope with it.

Organization of the game

When a child appears in the family, parents should immediately think over not just a place to sleep, but also a place where he will play. It is important that the game space is convenient and safe. Dr. Komarovsky advises to drop to the level of growth of crumbs and look around - you can see a lot of interesting things. Do not rely on bans - the kid can play and forget that you can not climb into the socket. It is better to do so that he could not hurt himself. The danger is represented by various lockers and drawers - not only the ability to pinch your finger, but also the contents. It is necessary that the scissors, knives, compasses, fragile and beating objects were unattainable for the child.


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Especially it is necessary to stop on the organization of storage of toys. If they are just stacked in a corner - the room will quickly turn into a cluttered, untidy room. In addition, the child can not learn how to fold cars and dolls, leaving after their actions order. It is necessary to think over a place for each kind of toys - to store them on open shelves, in special baskets or boxes.

Psychologists advise not to give the child many toys at once. It is necessary to allocate to him for employment a small amount, the rest to be removed. When the kid plays enough of the allocated amount, they can be hidden and offered to others, which he has not seen for a long time. Then the crumb will be interested in his occupation and he will not be bored with playing for a long time.

What is suitable for independent play?

To the child does not lose interest in the game and is not tired, you need to properly choose toys for him. Do not leave him alone with a complex developing or board game, in which he can not figure out without the participation of an adult. It is better to pick up familiar items or suggest a story, the participant of which he can become himself. Toys that are best suited for self-study:

  • All sorts of items for simulating professional activities: a doctor's kit, a hairdresser, carpenter's tools, sewing machine, washing machine.
  • Soft toys or dolls, with which the baby does not part - puts them to bed, puts them on the table and takes them on a trip.
  • Items not intended for playing - cardboard boxes, pads, lids from cans, pieces of cloth. Sometimes a kid skillfully turns simple things into anything.
  • Ideal for self-play a children's tent, in which the child can comfortably settle down. Instead of buying a house you can use a chair covered with a blanket.
  • Suitable games that the kid has already mastered and must understand them without the help of adults - puzzles, sorters, mosaic, designer, etc.
Children Household items can also become great toys for a child.

Sports toys - balls, hoops, skipping ropes are best not to use. The child can get the ball into the closet or chandelier, slip, fall. Also, do not give him interactive toys - they do not allow you to develop your imagination and limit the possible development of events. On the contrary, one should strive to develop the initiative and imagination of the baby so that he can occupy himself.

Let's sum up the

In order for a child to learn how to play independently, parents must follow the fulfillment of several conditions. We described them above, but now we will briefly recall the most important requirements:

  • Creation of safe conditions for the game, allocation of sufficient space.
  • Preliminary close communication with the offspring so that he does not feel abandoned.
  • Adequate response to requests for assistance. Mom should not leave for a long time and not respond to the call of the baby.
  • Developing the imagination, training the habit of occupying themselves.
  • Promotion for independence, praise of mother.
  • Smooth increase in the time allotted to stand-alone occupations.

Teach a child to play independently is not so difficult. It is necessary to act consistently, not forgetting the chosen model of behavior with the baby, even at a party. The little one is gradually accustomed to entertain himself. This process will be soft and comfortable, if the mother and father support the child, regularly give him at least a little time and encourage new achievements.


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